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Friday, June 4, 2010

This week, though short, has been a rough one. We returned from our quick vacation feeling like we needed a vacation. I’m already tired and it’s not even lunch. So let’s get down to business, right? Here’s the Best of the Blogs—my rundown of what I thought were the prime bloggy cuts from this 22nd week of 2010.

1. Bundle of Oy!
A new U.C.L.A study looks at the double-income, multiple-child, middle-class, typical American family. Documenting the life of these families (videotaping their dinners, conversations, leisure activities, etc.), the researchers came away with some disturbing intel: these people are stressed out and miserable! One graduate student on the project went so far as saying that spending time with the study’s families was “the very purest form of birth control ever devised.” Daaaamn. Read more about it here on the ever-fascinating psychology and neuroscience blog The Frontal Cortex. The NYT also had a story on the reality-TV-like study.
(This cut was from the week before, but I thought it was tasty enough to hold over for today’s wrap-up.)

2. By the Book
A few weekends ago, we hosted a Family Fun Day in the Park. One of the dads (a lawyer turned SAHD) raised a good point about parenting books—they kind of just cut you off after 12 months. Yes, you’ve settled into things and you’re off panic mode. Doesn’t mean you’ve run out of “what does it mean when” queries. A few days later I read this post on NYT‘s Motherlode asking where most folks get their parenting knowledge. It ain’t books. (Sorry, Dr. Sears.) I’m curious, too … where does your parenting know-how come from? Leave a comment below.

3. Perfect Storm
Motherlode’s Lisa Belkin also talked about the dangers of perfectionist parents in another post this week. She wrote about two studies that were presented at the Association for Psychological Science meet. The one I found more interesting (mainly because the researchers are from my alma mater York University) showed that, “in pregnant women, the inability to live up to one’s own exacting standards can lead to postpartum depression.”

Perfection is unrealistic, clearly. Perfection in parenting? Come on. That’s why I was happy to see‘s list of the 10 most unrealistic movie moms. This has been a pet peeve of mine for a good while. I’m sure we can all add to the list, right? Actually, let’s do that … check out their 10 and come back here to comments and put up your #11, 12, 13, 14, etc. Should we add TV moms to it, too? Hmm, maybe not. Don’t want anyone messing with my Clair Huxtable, now.

Speaking of …

4. Are You Gonna Go My Way?
Actually, I came across a few blogs on the topic of parenting this week. And each showed that the “perfect” way to parent is your way. BusyDad‘s guest post over at The Yummy Mummy Club talked about being a dad/parent the second time around—going from blank slates in uncharted territory reading every baby book published to jaded vets who use Twitter as their parenting resource. (I officially like this BusyDad guy. He’s funny and honest, which is always an endearing combo).

I also liked Girl’s Gone Child‘s recent entry. It was her 1,000th post. Pretty impressive. Five years of chronicling her life as a “sudden wife and instant mother,” trying to understand what it means to have a family … she refers to it as a sort of yearbook. Apt description. And the class photos are really sweet.

Then there’s this new-to-the-network blog Mama’s Boy on It’s actually writer and blogger Christine Coppa moving over from her Glamour magazine Storked! blog, and it’s all about being a young (she’s 29, her son is 3) and single (the “father” bailed on her at the 12-week sonogram) mother. In this, her second post for the new blog, Coppa talks about the importance of location when raising your kid solo.

5. Best in Naps
I already talked about the good, bad and uggh from our Bahamas trip in this post a few days ago. But there’s a photo that captured one of my favorite moments of the vacation. It melts me, each viewing. I wanted to share it with you. Here are my boys, resting easy.

Have a good one. See you next week, yes?

  • 1
    BusyDad says:

    :) Thank you. Once again! I just tell it like it is and cross my fingers the internet parent patrol doesn’t come knocking on my door. Also Claire Huxtable RULES.

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      Ms. Mack says:

      A Clair Huxtable fan too? Man, you’re in the good books–in pen! Hope you’re doing OK with the no-sleep this time around.

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    anne says:

    I get my parenting advice (and tons of other advice) from other moms, mostly. We’re part of a list serv and it’s such a great way to get a spectrum of opinions, with one simple email.

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      Ms. Mack says:

      Thanks for the comment, Anne. Ditto on the other moms and advice. It definitely helps to hear real-life feedback sometimes instead of flipping through the pages of some books. (I’d like to hear more about your list serv, too!)