Finding Your Five

Thursday, September 29, 2011

You know we’re big fans of Karen Walrond and the good things she cooks up on her blog Chookooloonks, right? Well, this week she tossed something out on Twitter that was (what I’m going to start calling) Classic Karen: she listed the five best decisions she’s made in her life so far and asked her thousands of followers to share theirs.

Of course it sent me picking through my life files to find my five.  It didn’t take me long at all, actually. Some were obvious, no-brainer decisions, while others were more about my letting go of the need to have everything colored-in and complete, and just believing. Just saying “maybe” and trusting that something spectacular was waiting for me around the bend.

Here’s what I tweeted back to Karen:

My 5: move to NYC after graduating; say yes to cookie-baking date; launch dot-com; try again after miscarriage; bet on me.

The cookie-baking date was with the man I would later marry. Somehow, even on that first date, I knew he was important and would leave a momentous mark on my life. So that definitely falls under the “no-brainer” category.

Plus, he just made/makes me so very happy:

The decision to try after the devastation of a miscarriage … well, I’m not sure that was entirely a matter of to do or not. It was more my choosing to trust that things will work out. Even if the unthinkable happened, and I had suffered another loss or, worse, I discovered that I wasn’t able to have a successful pregnancy, I made the choice to believe — down to my core — that it would work out. And if that meant not giving birth to a child of my womb or having to piece together our own definition of “a family,” then it had indeed worked out — for us.

Yeah, I’d say it definitely did! Another big slice of my joy:

Karen wrote a wonderful post about this exercise on her blog, and I was pleased to see my original tweet listed there. It’s such a great exercise, this giving yourself props for the things you did right, especially since we’re all too quick to point out where we think we’ve “failed” or came up short. Instead of soaking in regret, it’s a chance to look back with celebration and applause. The perfect marriage of memory and gratitude.

So … what are your five?

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