Teach Your Children Well: Book Giveaway

Thursday, August 9, 2012

A day after inducting psychologist Madeline Levine into my the special M.M.M fan club, I received a friendly email from a publicist at HarperCollins Publishers asking if there’s any interest in a giveaway. As in, giving one happy reader a free copy of Levine’s new book Teach Your Children Well: Parenting for Authentic Success.

Um, YESSSS!

Good news, right? While I’m digging through the book for intel (pen in hand!) to share, one of you can read along too. Looking forward to hearing what you think about the book.

All right, so the giveaway …

In Levine’s popular NYT’s piece about raising happy, successful children, she points to one of the main underlying problems that parents need to address first: What does that mean to you? What is your definition of happy and successful? So, leave a comment below answering this question OR share any issues you’re hoping to learn more on through reading (and talking about!) this book, and you’ll be in the running to win a copy of the book.

13 Comments
  • 1
    Heather E. says:

    Happy and successful=being able to be a joyful person, and live life the best that one can.

    • 1.1
      Ms. Mary Mack says:

      Thanks for the comment, Heather! Your definition of happy and successful is simple, but oh-so complete.

  • 2
    Kristin says:

    I loved what you had to say about the article, and thanks for reminding me to keep reading, re-reading, and reading again. So much to learn…if only to help ME find coping skills!

    My husband is all over this book. And as the parent of an incoming Kindergartener I am hoping that my son (a bit of an anxious kid) has coping skills. We try to support and encourage rather than praise and reward. Still, kids (kinda like adults) get frustrated and give up when the intrinsic motivation doesn’t form a solid goal.

    Recent examples include: Putting on socks (sweaty feet make it tough), taking off shirts (haven’t quite got the elbow out of the sleeve thing down), and untying knots on sneakers (it’s a difficult thing). It’s so much easier to do for them. No. Not easier. Quicker. And that’s what we’re all about lately, isn’t it?

    • 2.1
      Ms. Mary Mack says:

      Another comment with the husband being right there, right in step with a plan to parent in the lead. Yessss!

      “…get frustrated and give up when the intrinsic motivation doesn’t form a solid goal.” Oh, indeed. And your examples…you’re preaching to the choir! It is quicker and “easier” to put the socks on for them, untie the shoe, etc. There’s real work involved in hanging back and letting this little folks do their own do.

  • 3

    My husband has always said that all he hopes for our daughter is that she will find something that she is truly passionate about and that she will have the gumption to pursue that passion. This is coming from a guy who is really competitive about sports and very successful in his career. I love that he feels this way, and I totally agree. I keep this in mind when my little toddler wants to do things herself (which yes, is totally slower). How else will she find her passion if she isn’t given the freedom to try stuff out? How else will she believe that her little inspirations are valid and meant to be followed? But in real life, this is hard, and we don’t get it right all the time.

    • 3.1
      Ms. Mary Mack says:

      You want her to truly follow her heart. That’s excellent! (And, yes, it’s the real life part of all this that cracks are lofty dreams open and demands that we do the work–the work of following a dream, finding inspiration, pursuing a passion despite all the things that get in the way. It’s hard work being a fully-formed, striving-to-be-better human being, yes?)

  • 4
    Amy says:

    This book looks so great. I think the main thing for teaching my son about happiness is to help him understand that it doesn’t come from material objects or even life circumstances, but from your state if mind and finding a way to offer something meaningful to the world.

    • 4.1
      Ms. Mary Mack says:

      Yes, good point. Happiness is a state of mind. (And, as I’ve posted before, happiness is a choice.) I like what you said about “finding a way to offer something meaningful to the world.” It leaves things wiiiiide open for your kid to choose how best to do that. Great one, Amy. Thanks.

  • 5
    Bonnie says:

    To me, happy and successful means to be enjoying life, doing what brings you joy and peace.

    • 5.1
      Ms. Mary Mack says:

      Thanks, Bonnie. There’s a lot to be said for doing what truly bring YOU joy. Not what the next man is doing or what people tell you that you should be doing. You know, it might sound corn dog to some — do what brings you joy — but it’s not easy. It takes nerve and trust in yourself to live this way.

  • 6
    Nicole says:

    Being able to enjoy life and pursue your dreams. My daughter is only two now, but already we’re asked what preschool she’ll be going to. I want her to grow up knowing how to play and enjoy life. To know that it’s okay to stop and smell the roses.

  • 7

    I’ll be happy if I can raise two girls that are happy and TRUE to themselves. Tt be secure and confident enough to be who they are. I have two very different personalities in my daughters and as a parent it’s what I struggle with the most. How to parent them as individuals.