BlogHer ’13 is Over. Time to Get “It” Started!

Tuesday, July 30, 2013

I’ve been to BlogHer twice before, and each time I came away feeling different degrees of happiness. The first year  — barely five months into the start of Ms. Mary Mack — was slightly overwhelming. But in that good way. I met so many inspired women with voices so clear, so clever, so meaningful, I sailed back home twitching with energy and muse and motivation to get IT done — whatever big idea “it” was back then.

My second time out, I had two years of bloggery under my belt, and had come to know more people online. More folks were reading MMM and I had carved out a corner for myself in the social media ballroom. That year turned out to be more about meeting “in real-time” a lot these folks who had become friends; people I knew really well through their words, their voices, their stories.

This year was different too. First, it wasn’t in NYC. It was in Chicago, so I had to actually get on a plane and book a hotel room. Listen, this is not a complaint. My room was king-sized fabulous, and the folks at the Sheraton Chicago were beyond helpful. Plus — you ready? — one morning I got to sleep in until 7:15 a.m.! Height of luxuriating, man. And Chicago was simply gorgeous.





(Beautiful, right?)

This year’s BlogHer conference was also different because I was speaking on a panel. I’m still looking over at my badge and winking at it. Residual giddy, y’all.


The panel was called “Anatomy of a Story,” and, if I may speak on behalf of my co-panelists — Jenni ChiuVikki Reich and (moderator) Tanis Miller — I will say that it went really well.* The response from those who attended our talk was heartwarming and so kind. Folks were quoting us on Twitter and used our special hashtag (#BH13Story) and everything. One woman even said: “This was the best panel in the last two years.”

Um… did she just say…?

YES! She did. Can you believe it?

I was honored, proud, delighted, and flat-out relieved. People came to hear what we had to say and, more important, they found what we had to say useful. Can’t ask for more than that. It was fantastic.

Another fantastic thing? Meeting up with all my Twitter/blogger crew. We were all genuinely happy to see each other and spend time laughing, dancing, supporting, listening, agreeing, respectfully disagreeing, and hooting and rooting for one another.




IMG_6913Once again, I left BlogHer feeling uplifted, like this work that we do in the quiet of the little spaces we hold matters. Our words, our voices, our stories, our curiosities and causes they truly matter, and we need to press on with it because this world — with its maddening mix of genius and outrage  — is certainly not going to change by itself. So get it started, ladies and friends. Get it started today.


*I will add a new post later this week about storytelling, with links to some of the books I mentioned during the panel. If BlogHer posts any transcripts or links from the talk, I’ll be sure to include that too.

Thanks, again, to all who attended and to those who sent their good wishes from a distance. Appreciated, all of it.

  • 1
    Tanis Miller says:

    You were an absolute ray of sunshine. I’m so pleased to have met you and worked with you. May our paths cross in the future Nicole. xo

    • 1.1
      Ms. Mary Mack says:

      Tanis! You’re so kind…and that’s just the beginning. I’m so happy that we met and definitely look forward to the crossing of paths soon too. Stay fabulous.

  • 2
    Mocha says:

    No words can describe our being together this weekend. You’d think a bunch of writers could actually do that, wouldn’t you?

    I love how bright and energetic and tender you are, Nicole. Thank you for all of you.

    • 2.1
      Ms. Mary Mack says:

      Awww…Kells. Why you tryin’ making a G tear up on her own blog??! Thank you, good woman. Thank you. So happy I can actually call you friend.

  • 3
    Arnebya says:

    Thank you for making me return to the dance floor whenever dancetoable music was played. I’m still smiling. Your panel was fantastic; all of you were so well prepared, so purposeful, enlightening, inspiring. The positive feedback you’ve received is honest and accurate.

    • 3.1
      Ms. Mary Mack says:

      Why am I shimmying in my chair right now? Because YOU! Such a blast hanging with you. In the words of the great MJ: Don’t stop ’til you get enough. :-) Thanks, Arnebya.

  • 4

    Well, it WAS the best – organized, thoughtful, helpful both artistically and structurally. Anatomy = the perfect word for what you taught. I’m glad that stuck with you, because your session stuck with me. Thank you.