{Vlog} The Rent is Too Damn High For What Folks Say to Mothers of Mixed Race Kids

Wednesday, August 21, 2013

Seems like every other week I’m reading another essay or blog post by a mother of color (or mother of biracial/mixed race children) talking about the inappropriate and daft things that people say to them about their kids.

This week’s contribution to the pile comes from Nicole Soojung Callahan with her piece in Motherlode called “Mixed Kids Are Always So Beautiful.

(You may remember I wrote an essay about being mistaken for the nanny for Motherlode three years ago. Sadly the “mistaking” is still happening to countless mothers.)

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    Alicia says:

    Write the boooook!

    • 1.1
      Ms. Mary Mack says:

      Haha! I’m working on it allll now, friend. All now. (Thanks.)

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    Sarah says:

    I have been talking about this on facebook for the past 2 days, after sharing Nicole Callahan’s piece.

    Last week, 2 separate people asked me if I foster my kids (after touching my 2yo’s curls). The fact that you are assumed to be a nanny and I, a foster parent, says so much…

    Write the book! And congrats on finishing your 3rd novel!

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    This resonates.

    Our blended family make-up was:

    Black British wife
    White American husband
    Two white children
    Two mixed raced children

    It was highly amusing as we walked through airports, for instance, to see people obviously trying to ‘work out’ this eclectic group. And, yes, I was often cast as the Nanny.

    My husband has since died, but my now grown children and I remain amused and/or horrified at the things people will say and ask us as we go about our lives.


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      Ms. Mary Mack says:

      Thank you for the comment! And, yes, amused-slashed-horrified. There needs to be a new word for that feeling.

      (On a sadder notes, I’m sorry to hear about your husband’s passing.)